FIND YOUR EQUAL

I was watching the movie Vanity Fair(2004) starring Reese Witherspoon. Anyone who knows me will tell you this is not my kind of movie. I was with one of my sisters and she  insisted we watch it,she had already seen the movie and wanted me to see it.Its one of those movies where they speak King James English and everyone looks like they are attending a costume party .Talking of fashion the man on the movie wore the knee length boots and rocked them.Since we where having something to eat and needed  to kill time before going the concert, I figured why not.The movie centres around a young ambitious girl(Reese) who comes from a poor background but marries rich. The husband loved her to bits but his family was not impressed,as a result his wealth was taken from him and  given to his brother.  The couple found themselves living from hand to mouth. The man cracked as he had no staying power. The girl on the other hand pushed every button to make sure they reach their previous social status.As I watched the movie I realised how we sometimes settle for people who are not our equal maybe because they have money the time we meet them. I believe money is part of the deal but not the deal.As a women you have to get a man who is ahead of you in all spheres including mentally and as a man you need a women who compliments you and assures you her support.Because when things go bad, because they will you need someone who will be able to hold the bull by the horn.Some will argue that the lady in the movie was a bitch but that is what usually happens when a strong women takes care of business,we are called bitches. The guy died before the movie end and she ended up in India God knows what she was going to do there.I will like to think if she had been with her equal to begin with a lot will have been conquered if only he was stronger/her equal.Here is my advice to you:

To my boy child: Be a man -simple! Make sure she has your best interest at heart then love her like your life depends on it. Don't stop growing, if she is your equal you will not struggle taking care of business. You must not let anyone or anything take your position as a leader in your own house. You should lead in making sure your family prays, lead when it comes to finances, lead in decision making,make sure the lady of the house and your offspring are well taken care off. I want you when you find one who makes your heart sing to be two steps ahead of her.You see its simple really, the is nowhere under the sun anyone in their right mind will  listen to a leader who can't live by example so make sure you don't stop growing. If you fall for miss ambitious,don't stop at nothing type of girl. Don't suppress her support her and don't play catch up- be ahead. Like your grandfather,make things happen, let your family know you have things under control. The bible says love your wife as Christ loved the Church and because he loved the church he gave himself. Love them enough to give yourself. Don't take money from a your women unless you really need to or she is your mother and make sure you give it back. You should be the one who gives her money and lots of it. Love manifest itself by giving - because God loved he gave.You will hear a lot of wimps talking about 50/50, take it from a women that is weak men vocabulary,real man don't need no assistance from their wives,they need submission. You see marriage was no one but God's idea, because he is the author its best you go by his rules.

To my girl child: make sure you get a man who is two steps ahead of you and don't be apologetic about this. A man has to lead and lead in all spheres.Never let anyone tell you otherwise. There is a difference between leading and bossing so make sure he is a leader not a boss.Submit to his leadership it will make you a better wife,mother and women.Your equal is the kind of man who will not be intimidated by your dreams, success or  allow your downfall. The kind who will not need you to compliment his income but will be able to take care of business without you,yet understands and support your dreams.If you are the only one who gets to eat his money and he does not touch a dime of yours then my baby that is your equal. You see the is something your grandfather taught me and that is men are simple. Its either he has his story together or he does not.If he has he will take care of his business in the family if not he will find every excuse in the book including making you play the men. Don't settle for less. Work hard to achieve success don't let anyone hold you back.Don't be scared to walk the route less travelled.Your equal has to get you when you laugh, be able to let you pursue your goals,be able to hold you when you cry,understand you are strong to take what comes your way,support you when you've messed up and cheer you on, on your next venture.Your equal is the kind of men who lets you be you and is still not scared someone will take you away from him because you are his equal. Like a puzzle you won't fit anywhere but with him.