I have always and continue to be a very confrontational person. I just believe in facing issues as they come, deal with them and move on. This is just me, the only thing I find now than before is I have learned the art of choosing my battles. I don't feel the need to confront each and every thing. Some things are just not worth it, so I let them be. Because of this attribute I have been labelled  the b word,cold, insensitive,bully etc. Frankly this does not bother me much because I don't think any of words listed above define me. Maybe some people have felt bullied by me or felt my coldness but that is not who I am.  Like everyone else I have my short comings and working everyday to better myself. One thing I know though I used to practise a lot when I was younger was putting up a proud face. I am not really sure why but I will walk into a room categories people, and just have a proud face. I think it was sometimes a defence mechanism because maybe some knew me and probably had not nice things to say about me or I was just not interested in knowing them for whatever reason. I have always had my people and still do I believe in keeping genuine friends and rolling with them exclusively. I think the is nothing wrong with this and will in fact suggest you do the same one day. The point of this post is to deal with the proud look. Never allow yourself to have this habit. Smile it costs nothing. Never go through life with this type of attitude. No matter how sure you are of yourself. I remember my early days when I was getting rid of this, I will be doing something as simple as groceries at Pick 'n Pay then I'll be looking around like I am better than everyone else, its so weired thinking back on those days. I will have to consciously remind myself that this was wrong I will then relax my face and be normal. The bible says that the Lord detest a proud look, I had to remind myself of this scripture over and over again. I must say I am a pro now lol. You will never see me walk around with a stale proud face. I smile even if  I don't know the people. It is always wonderful to see what the Holy Spirit can teach one. If I had not written this down for you I will like to believe that he would have taught you himself. He is the extra ordinary strategist. My folks never taught me this but he did,The word says "great is the peace of your children for they are taught by the Lord!"